Welcome to Cuelia Therapy & Life Coaching

Thank you for stopping by, please do contact me if you think I can help you on your journey to improve your wellbeing, details are at the bottom of this page. 

Counselling / Psychotherapy / Hypnotherapy:

Therapy is not to impose answers, it is to  be heard, receive validation and helped to discover your own solutions, by providing a safe and confidential space to share our story and not be judged. Therapy is a vehicle towards empowerment.

Using the therapeutic space to uncover and understand  our individual 'operating systems' and what it is influenced by, what are our triggers, patterns of behaviours, our defence mechanisms, maladapted thinking etc.. This is necessary to making lasting positive changes.  Many of these programs/life scripts are hidden in our subconscious and through exploration with a trained therapist we can start to make a bit more sense of ourselves.  This awareness can help to alleviate anxiety and depression as we become more aligned with our true selves.

Some of the most profound shifts are subtle, evolving over time as we recover something we were unaware we had lost, or did not have the opportunity / healthy nurturing for us to develop.

Counselling/psychotherapy can help you to:

Understand what maybe causing persistent anxiety or depression, or why you keep repeating patterns and then  critical of yourselves, you need to find out what is at the root of it to understand, be able to offer compassion and quieten that highly critical voice,  be able to make positive changes, dismissing beliefs that are not actually your own, or maladapted coping mechanisms.  Identify areas that are not in alignment to your 'true self' and be more self-aware, find out who you are.

Imagine the tip of an iceberg representing our conscious mind, and many of our beliefs and values are stored below in the subconscious. Some of these beliefs we will be unaware of as were laid at a very early age when life 'blueprints' are being built, inherited from care givers, community and cultural leaders, teachers, significant adults, society and environment to name but a few. Some of them we form ourselves from our knowledge and experience, some will be maladapted to manage difficulties we do not understand or unable to cope at the time, so our minds have been creative in order to survive.

Or just a space o talk about something in a confidential and non-judgemental safe space, where exploration can help to find solutions..  Therapy can help to increase self-awareness, uncover unmet psychological needs by using the 'hierarchy of human needs', evaluate those that are externally met and could be keeping you vulnerable and disempowered, all of which are detrimental to good mental health.

As an Integrative therapist I am able to use multiple theories, interventions and psych education that will suit your needs and goals

Specialism in working with ADHD 

Many people consider this a 'label' to be avoided, it can be more helpful to consider it to be a descriptor: of our executive functioning ability, of how our brain works which is essential to get the best out of it and support the area's that are impaired.

It is equally important to not compare to others, simply because it is about functionality, the differences and impairments will be individual, considering what age a development delay to that area of the brain occurred and why, which impairments are present, level of intensity of impairments, and we still have individual experiences that influence our emotional regulation ability.

It Is diagnosed where there is consistent and significant impairments in the executive function of the brain affecting emotional regulation, rejection sensitivity, working memory, focus and attention, decision making, and the way it manages dopamine (interest based), Impulse control, time awareness, social cues, managing relationships, stimulation (stimming /hyperactivity).  There are 3 classifications in the UK, Predominantly Inattentive, Predominantly Hyperactive and combined,  There are differences in presentations between childhood and adulthood and also gender.  Further research is looking into how hormones affect this, and it has been noted that ADHD presentations can be late onset during puberty (Kings College, London).

I have significant personal and professional experience in working with ADHD helping clients to identify and understand their traits, how to work with them rather than against them, so that with the right support and understanding they can reach their true potential, move forward and lead fulfilling lives.  I also promote education around ADHD, with so much under recognition and misunderstanding of Neurodivergence, in particular ADD (where hyperactivity is not present or dominant).  Many  people are continually being failed when it is not recognised, unfortunately this often leads to severe mental health issues in adulthood. including low self esteem, depression and high levels of anxiety. 

My journey with ADHD started with discovering more about it in my professional development, and recognition of my, now adult, child's possible root of significant distress and extremely poor mental health.  Through this extra education it became a passion to understand it more and a recognition of my own traits, making so much sense of my childhood. I now have over 2000 hrs of working with predominantly ADHD clients, helping them understand their own process, discover what maladaptive thoughts & behaviours and incorrect core beliefs  that  are still harming psychologically.  The aim is to change that to work with our true selves, champion our own process and live authentically without the need to be defined by external sources..

Inner Child therapy:

Is a gentle and non traumatising exploration to re-engage with that part of us that may still be wounded and unconsciously influencing our thoughts which drive our behaviours, cycles and patterns.  When we look back at childhood experiences we do so through the lens of our adult self, with developed emotional intelligence and rational thinking, but as a child we often are overwhelmed, unable to recognise our feelings or know what to do with them, often using suppression to cope, creating our own Pandora box that remains often causing psychological conflict, buried so deep we are not aware of how it drives us.. Connecting to our inner child enables us to allow that child part, still within,  a voice, and with understanding, acknowledging and validating our childhood experience. we can meet the human needs that were left unmet, develop self-awareness on what is still influencing us today, applying compassion, reassurance and recognising our authenticity.

Reconnecting to that part of us is essential for healing old wounds, understanding and correcting damaging core beliefs.

Hypnotherapy

Hypnosis is a conscious state of focused attention, rather than a state of unconsciousness. During hypnosis you remain in control, you are just in a very relaxed and focused state. You can also hear everything that is going on around you therefore you are aware,  still in control, and cannot be coerced in to thinking or doing something unacceptable to you. Hypnotherapy is a clinically proven practice; it is not stage hypnosis where people are prompted to act out certain behaviours for entertainment. 

A hypnotic state more similar to being absorbed in a daydream, or ‘lost’ in a good book, or movie, in that you are aware of what is happening around you, but most of your focus is upon one subject.

After the consultation stage, hypnotherapy sessions involve a hypnotic induction to enter a relaxed state and suggestions to encourage positive changes to behaviour and thoughts. While you are in a hypnotic state of relaxation you are more open to positive suggestions that can benefit your health and well-being, and behaviours that you wish to change

Life Coaching

Coaching is a collaborative relationship formed to identify and reach goals, to construct solutions that enables positive growth and realise potential.  Using coaching skills to provoke thoughts, promote empowerment, and a creative process to inspire and maintain a forward trajectory.  As a psychotherapist I  deepen this work to identify subconscious programming, limiting core beliefs and emotional obstacles that can prevent this growth. 

Couples/Relationship

Supportive, mediative, non-judgmental, impartial and respectful counselling for romantic partners or between 2 family members or a valued friendship, to explore and understand the dynamics affecting the relationship, and find solutions to overcome difficulties such as: 

Communication issues 

Repair and restore 

Individuals unmet needs and expectations

Conflict resolution 

Understanding each others patterns and behaviours 

My couples process is to have an individual session which each of you to understand what goals you each have, and where you can speak freely, then bring you together for the rest of the sessions. 



Reflexology

Reflexology is not simply a foot massage, it is also a powerful system of health care, useful for achieving and maintaining health and enhancing wellbeing. It is a complementary therapy, and should not be considered as an alternative to conventional medicine. It is also a Holistic therapy, in which every aspect is considered and treated.

It reduces stress by inducing deep relaxation; it improves the circulation and helps in cleansing the body of toxins.

Reflexology, in the hands of a qualified practitioner, is probably the most powerful of all complementary therapies, and whilst no accredited and properly qualified reflexologist will ever claim to cure, experience shows that very positive health benefits are gained through the use of this therapy.

It is practiced by the use of gentle pressure on parts of the feet called reflex areas, which correspond to specific areas of the body. The various organs and glands of the body are stimulated in this way to work one hundred percent of their capacity. This helps to return the body's systems to a natural state of balance, and enhancing the recipient's own natural healing capabilities.

Can Reflexology help me?

Reflexology can be particularly helpful in dealing with many of those long term and recurring conditions that many of us think we just have to accept as normal.

Here are just a few of the more common conditions that have been successfully helped through reflexology:

• Migraine & Headaches
• Irritable Bowel Syndrome                       
• Sinusitis
• Pre Menstrual Tension
• Tinnitus
• Insomnia
•  Menopausal problems
•  Stress related problems
• Fertility & Pregnancy   

Reiki  

Reiki is a Japanese technique for stress reduction and relaxation that also promotes healing. It is  based on the idea that an unseen "life force energy" flows through us and is what causes us to be alive. If one's "life force energy" is low or blocked, then we are more likely to get sick or feel stress, and if it is high, we are more capable of being happy and healthy.  

Chakras and Reiki are integrated systems. Reiki helps maintain chakras, ensuring energy flows optimally.

About Me

Donna Stocks MNCIP(Reg,), MNCPS (Acc.), CRM5

Registered and Accredited Integrative Counsellor  & Psychotherapist

Life Coach, NLP Practioner & Hypnotherapist

Clinical Reflexologist (CRM-L5)